I have this theory that comes solely from within my limited life experience, and is not derived from any research or experiments whatsoever. Just my narrow observations of life experience. I also don’t know how true this could be, but I’m just going to say it.

I also would like to say first that I don’t believe in “ugliness”.  How can you say a human being is “ugly”? Some people try harder than others to keep up a personal appearance, and some people have better things to do, or they don’t, it doesn’t really matter. I just think everybody is capable of showing their natural beauty if they keep good hygiene or whatever, you know?

I’m also going to stop putting quotations around “ugly”, but just know I don’t actually mean ugly girls, just what some people define as ugly.

Since that’s out of the way, I’ll say this:

I think pretty girls have a disadvantage at life. It may seem as if the exact opposite is true because they can do things that normal looking people or ugly people might not get to do just because of their beauty, but that disadvantage comes because they might have an easier time accomplishing things than normal people. In the situations where pretty girls pass through easily, normal people would have to work hard to get to that point, right?

Because of this, normal people work harder, and understand the philosophy of hard work, and appreciate their position more. Now I’m not saying beautiful girls don’t have to try hard at anything, just that some things in life may  come easier with beauty and charm. And that will never change.

Going further, from a young age, cute little girls are fawned over and praised for their cute little outfits, and are given Barbies which represent the “true American” lifestyle with a world wide open to them because of their outside beauty and material possessions. To me, those are not the right values little girls should be learning.

I just have a feeling that if little girls are learning things like that, they grow up thinking those same things. And although, ugly little girls (if that’s even possible?) are also fawned over, they probably aren’t as much, right?. And family economics and the society girls grow up in come in to play here too. Some little girls don’t always have the cutest outfits. And maybe not a lot of people are around to say they are pretty. So maybe they don’t put as much emphasis on being outwardly attractive later in life. Maybe they don’t become as distracted by trying to be pretty, and worry about more important things, like learning, pursuing interests, things like that.

But what about the girls with self-confidence and appearance issues? What if people think they are pretty, so they receive the same treatment as pretty girls, but it doesn’t penetrate because they can’t see it inside themselves? Well, I’m not really sure, and it’s probably complicated to measure how that would work out, but maybe they think they’re ugly because they’re not as beautiful as some other girls may be, so they think they have to try harder anyway. So they do and they become successful. Maybe.

Obviously, this is kind of turned into a stream of consciousness and I don’t really know what I’m talking about so feel free to disagree, because I probably disagree with a little of what I’m saying anyway.

But what I really wanted to convey in this post is that, maybe if you’re not conventionally beautiful, you can appreciate the hard work that goes into having a successful life. And all lives are different, so there cannot possibly be a definition of success. Maybe ugly girls pay attention to the more important things in life, like making real connections with human beings based on ideas, knowledge, existence, just transcending the material world we live in and thriving in that world where superficial things do not matter.

But everybody is capable of doing this, even pretty people, they just need to get past the idea that beauty can get you anywhere. Because although it might seem it can, but it doesn’t really get you anywhere inside yourself. And if you think it can, you have some serious readjustments to your priorities to make. You need to realize that  the only person capable of describing meaning to your life is yourself, because you are the one living it. Don’t let something so fickle as beauty rule your life. I always like the quote, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, because no matter who you are and while some people may call you ugly, someone will always think you are beautiful.

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